#1 Reason Relationships Don’t Work Out

By • Jul 14th, 2008 • Category: Articles, Breakups, Dating

Everyone knows the statistics out there: 50% of marriages end in divorce, and of the ones that don’t, a high percentage are miserable and unhappy, sucking the soul out of both partners.  And that’s the statistics for marriages, so what can be said for the success rate of all relationships in general? It’s not a pleasant picture.

Every relationship is complex and has its unique characteristics and reasons for success and/or failure. When all is said and done, things can be so confusing, that both partners feel like they still love each other, but can’t be together, but don’t know why, and blame each other with vague reasons for why things didn’t work out.

So why the hell do most relationships not work out??

As mentioned, there are many reasons both true and imagined about why each unique relationship failed. But when it all comes down to it, it boils down to the same thing:

People picked the wrong person to get involved in a relationship with in the first place.

Most relationships start because people are horny, or lonely, or tired and desperate or just finally found someone who they feel “comfortable” with and it’s better to be with someone like that than alone. But that does not make for a recipe for relationship success.

The main reason people end up with the wrong person is that they don’t have enough choice. They’ll date around a bit and join up with the first or second decent person who comes along who fulfills a list of certain criteria and makes them feel good. But they don’t really think long-term about whether this person has the same long term goals, ambitions and lifestyle as they do. People tend to get into relationships based on short term lust and short term needs satiation, rather than with a practical understanding of whether the two individuals are really compatible.

Of course, it’s never really obvious if you will have a good relationship until you get to know someone over an extended period of time. The best advice is to date many people and take your time making a decision. You want a large pool of potential applicants to choose from and you want to choose wisely.

Maybe it sounds too practical and calculating, but really, with modern life, the only way to make a good choice is to have an abundance of choice.


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  2. my friend josh is sad

  3. Indeed u r right. Am afraid of a relationship.i had one that crumbled on d floor b/c of d reasons u said

  4. hi ir one why relation ships don’t work out in the past ihave relation ships now2 one vtoo hasd abelly fullof woman now too now my first girlfriend was Jeannette smith friend that vidid meet in sefton training centre in brick wall lane sefton in 1979n jan 29th tage17 yrs old now buy but it never worked out now iwas with her for aweek now but then igot fed up with her now too one now she was about 18yrs old now she come to have alook at the cenrtre with her dasd now Ronnie that did die about 32yrs ago 1980 she lived at 6 west moreland averune ford with her sister now ellaine she went to work in asuper market for awek but then come back to the centre now now we diud fall out for abit now now iuse to get asoecial min I bus to the centre now but because iwas very able now iuse to use ordinary buses now theold 211bus to the cabbage now too now then she went out with my mate tony hughes for aweek now then then things went wrong with her now to she use to use him he use to take herto the vpicturs now in Crosby and hoiliday rthen about 1992tony hughes and their went to see her in buckly hill hopsytel in sefton now and tony brought her boix off chocolates now shr did not want to see now oh Andrew ran tree said top topn y cousin you should off topok them back now too as she was carrying on with tony hughes behind toiny hughes back nbw sadly steven hughes was found dead off heasrt attack ij jan five yrs ago and isaid he,ll,o to Jeannette smnith noiw she give me adiry lok now as throw it was my fault that he died now when it want dave owens relation ships gopsower and hold gruges dave

  5. hi their imet aother girl friend calledkaren Wilson whol lived in 12annie road bootle l20as iwent vout with her now in 1981 out side buckly hill hostel now too an y way now we had some problems with her now what happened was this it allstarted about august 1983 when iwent bto bootle atc centre leasrning disabltys now she use to satart kicking me niw yiu are not getting your bownj way now one so then useto fl,ert behind my back now too by when ihad money she useto use me for gigareetes noiw one too any way too noiw she had avery bad nervoius break down and giot put in to greaves hall in southport now and then in buckly hillhostel now then she use to have toy fights now and one time ihad arrow with her now and then she nearly attacked me now kin lsan sdown house in waterloo ass she did say thst itook money off her now then peter dobbs got me against the wAllastaff at lan sdown house that he was then bullied by him now aother time she then iwas in ashop now by seaforth station now and then just buying sweets about 1986 and she come right in the shopnow and hit me right in the ear flor nothing now and that did really hurt me now from dave owens 5 wal,ton brdckj rosd anfoield l40rb

  6. hi their aother thing now is this now one too is iwent out wirth agirl called joy hurst thay met ayt adisco now and then I helped her now as shr hasd problems with hrer cpn haylon thayt lived in Kimberly drive now meresy care trust now about 9 yrs ago too now what haapened was this irang ahostel uopfor them now and they would nikt except her riend now that vwas in awhhel chair now which was very wrong now one too so then they went to abed break fast now one too also now then one too now iwent to their house now at 30 meadow hey in boole now and ihad some thing to eat their now then now too swe took to her to get in volved with Aauztistic group now one ttoo and she did fit in their now one too then one she only went abiut once now and her cpn was on the phone to her now oh one where is joyce hurst now as they was in her care now then one too they went to the maghull disco nosw enjoyed them selfs now this was now vikina the club leader was not very in trezsytecxin ways off dealing wiuth people who hAd auzstism now and their behavoir it wasnmy averyu good social club at all for ujnder standing pwople who had disabltys now too as I doint go their my self now too much trou ble im the club now you xant enjoye the place it self nosw one too niw joy hust wont give mew the time off the day any m,ore now iwent in to knowzsly cou ncil on ameeasge and I doid sewe thedm as they throight tjayt iwaxd following them now any way too then I conplainecaboiut them now oine too themn one time iaatrangecd to mdeet them aT THE POICE ASTATION NOW ONE TOO NOW TOO IT DID JUST NOT WORFK OUT NOWTHEY WAS PRETENTING TO MEET ME OUT SIDE THEVPICTURS NOW AND NOT THEIR AT ALLNOW

  7. HI THEIR NOW ABOUT 1993 29N YRS AGO NOW I MET AGIRL CALLED SANDRA WAS AT THE KOIRKBY MONDAY CLUB NOW AND SHE KIVED IN aGROUPHOIME AT 18 MARLKBROIUGH ROAD TUE BROOK NOW THEN WE GOT ON FOR ABOIUT AYTR THEN THEKIR WAS ABIT OFF TROUBLE NOW WE WENT IN THE TAXI TO KIRKBY AND IDID N IOT HAVE THE TAXI FARE BOW AND I MAXDE HER PAY THE 10POUNDS AND THEN WE DID NOT GET LON OW AS SHE THROIUGHT THAT IWAS USEINBG HER NOW DAVE OWENS PS WE WENT TO FAZ HOSPTIALMABD HAD TEA TOAST IN TUEBROOK DAVE

  8. PW IHAVE HAD OTHERVPROBLEMS WITH GIRLS NOW TOO ONE WAS AGIRLCALLED FOINA MOWETT NOW THAT IUSE TO GO TO SCHOOLWITH NOW IN 1981VTHROUGH HER SISTER IN THE BEST END LIVERPOLARMS OPUB GORESY LANE AND WE VDID GET ON ABOIT NOW BUT HER DAD COIME ROM SCOTLAND DID NOT GET ON WITH ME NOW TOO NOW ONE WE3 THEN USE TO GO TO THE TUEDAY CLUB WHICH EWAS HELD AT ST PAULS CHOOL IN BOOTLE NOW AND USE TO WALK ME TIO THE BUS TOIPO AND SHE SENT ME AVAL IUN RTYNES CARD NOW IN 1981 NOW AND THEIR WAS ABIG GANG OFF LADS THEIR NOW TONY RANGE AND AGANG THAT HUNG AROUND WATS LAne bootle that was throwing snow balls at the bus stoop now the old roioble bus that yuse to go dowb park lane nerherton now too one then we had arrow and she spat over me my coat noiw and we did not gedyt on frlom their now too thhen iwas going out with aothef bgirfl thst idid mneet at millbnk college noe from dave owens then iwent out witgh jenny meesage n ow one too

  9. hi their ifirst met agirlcalled jenny message at millbank college now what happened wedid get on for about 6months now and then we did splt up now about 1983

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