#1 Reason Relationships Don’t Work OutBy Relationshiplab • Jul 14th, 2008 • Category: Articles, Breakups, Dating
Everyone knows the statistics out there: 50% of marriages end in divorce, and of the ones that don’t, a high percentage are miserable and unhappy, sucking the soul out of both partners. And that’s the statistics for marriages, so what can be said for the success rate of all relationships in general? It’s not a pleasant picture.
Every relationship is complex and has its unique characteristics and reasons for success and/or failure. When all is said and done, things can be so confusing, that both partners feel like they still love each other, but can’t be together, but don’t know why, and blame each other with vague reasons for why things didn’t work out.
So why the hell do most relationships not work out??
As mentioned, there are many reasons both true and imagined about why each unique relationship failed. But when it all comes down to it, it boils down to the same thing:
People picked the wrong person to get involved in a relationship with in the first place.
Most relationships start because people are horny, or lonely, or tired and desperate or just finally found someone who they feel “comfortable” with and it’s better to be with someone like that than alone. But that does not make for a recipe for relationship success.
The main reason people end up with the wrong person is that they don’t have enough choice. They’ll date around a bit and join up with the first or second decent person who comes along who fulfills a list of certain criteria and makes them feel good. But they don’t really think long-term about whether this person has the same long term goals, ambitions and lifestyle as they do. People tend to get into relationships based on short term lust and short term needs satiation, rather than with a practical understanding of whether the two individuals are really compatible.
Of course, it’s never really obvious if you will have a good relationship until you get to know someone over an extended period of time. The best advice is to date many people and take your time making a decision. You want a large pool of potential applicants to choose from and you want to choose wisely.
Maybe it sounds too practical and calculating, but really, with modern life, the only way to make a good choice is to have an abundance of choice.