Ten ways you know you have found “The One”

By • Sep 4th, 2008 • Category: Featured, For Couples

I’ve heard several people recently talking about finding “the one”. What is “the one” that they are referring to? I would say that people mean that it is the person who they feel confident about spending the rest of their life with. I think most people are searching for this kind of person, regardless of what they may tell other people. So let’s say you’ve found someone special in your life, how do you know that they are “The One”? Here’s a top ten list to help guide you:

10. The sex is incredible- you have never experienced such intense or frequent orgasms or had the desire for sex in such different positions or locations, you get the point. Fact is, sex is as much mental as physical, so if you’re deeply connected to your partner, the sex will be good.

9. You can talk for hours without being bored- lifelong compatibility is about having a lot of common interests and having good communication.

8. You can be silent for hours without being bored- even better than good conversation is good silence. It shows that you are truly comfortable together.

7. You lose all sense of logic and reason- you crave to be together all the time or you start thinking about marriage and/or children way before it is socially acceptable. You just feel like you want to dive head first into the relationship and be with your partner always.

6. You can confidently say you have never felt this way before- self explanatory, if other loves paled in comparison to this one, you might have just found true love.

5. You have similar life goals- you both want to start a family or start a business together or go sailing around the world, or whatever. Love alone isn’t enough- you need to have common life goals.

4. When you look into the future, you can see them in your plans- you find yourself thinking about having a family or being older or moving to another city or starting a new job, and your lover is always there, prominent in your future thoughts.

3. You have the desire to satisfy their needs over and above your own- you are interested in them as people, interested in their dreams and passions, their fears and worries. You want to be there for them and you hold their happiness above your own. For more info on this, look at my “What is Love?” article.

2. You want to share of yourself as much as possible- you can’t wait to introduce them to your friends and family, show them old pictures, and take them to your favorite places.

1. You love and appreciate them for their weaknesses as much as for their strengths- we all have strengths and weaknesses. However, you don’t feel critical of your partner for any of their weaknesses, in fact you appreciate their differences as being unique characteristics which make them the individuals they are.

Take a look at this checklist. If you find yourself checking off at least 7 or more of these items, you may just have found yourself “The One”! Save yourself the need for couples therapy in the future and make sure you are making a commitment to your true life partner.

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  6. Yes! to all ten. I’ve left 10-7 B4 but never felt 6-1. I am so in love, when I think about him sometimes I feel like my chest will burst. I had no idea that Love could be this amazing. Its been almost a year now and it just gets better and better!


  7. I am already very confident that I have found the one, but decided to read this just for giggles and it made me melt because I feel all 10 of them for my partner. <3 All I can say is when you find the one, you know it to your very core, and you don't need reassure that you have. You just know. 🙂

  8. I have found my one true that n thts wt he wl alwys mean to me his name is sipho khoza n im just so confident to publish ths relationship i love you sipho

  9. I’ll have to say that we certainly score a big fat 10, because I think of him every awaken moment and even sometimes when I’m asleep. And he said ditto. When he talks I feel as though I’m the most important person to him. He makes me feel like a QUEEN. I have never felt this way about anyone before. He makes me so happy, he gives me such a peace of mind. He assures me on a daily basis how much he loves me. I’m so confident that we are the most envied couple ever.

  10. I would love to find Mr. Right one day and I would be so happy.

  11. me and my girl is like craving to be with each other 24/7 and we have everything in common she wants to move to los angeles and i always wanted to move back there bc i from there so does tht also mean she b tha 1? and we both get this feeling tht we neither have gotten wit otha people so i geuss we b the 1 for 1 anotha is tht true love?

  12. All 10+!!! Fast forward 14 years… livin’ life with all it’s trials, tribulations, highs, small wonders, et al, et al, et al and we are now roommates who can’t put the pieces back together ever again. If I would have taken the test all those years ago, there would have been no prediction that he didn’t want/couldn’t go the distance, but is content with the way it is, minus 5!

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